February's here...

Here I am sitting in my stuffy room at the office, trying to finish off work and at the same time desperately needing at least a hint of fresh air. This is what I hated most about my current firm. The a/c will automatically be turned off at 5.30 pm. Sharp. Sometimes earlier. But never later. So much for centralised air conditioning huh?

Time and time again I have reminded myself to buy a cute sizeable rotating fan to compensate for the lack of air circulation come 5.30pm. Never did manage to get my lazy bum into gear. And hence the fan never did come into the picture. For the moment at least.

And yeap.

February's here.... *sigh*

I received a call from one of P's friend this morning. He wanted to know about the whole divorce proceeding, and how to go about doing it. Clearly he just had another fight with his wifey (whom by the way, I know really well), and clearly, the same cycle of words were being thrown (abusive and non-abusive ones) at each other that resulted in him calling me up (yet again) for the same advice that he did seek 2 months earlier. Trying to be a concerned friend, I told him to just have some time alone, and to discuss later with the wifey in order to come to terms with whatever differences they're having at this point of time.

He didn't think talking and trying to work things out was the best solution after all (either he was determined to end the marriage, or he was still pissy about the whole incident. I would love to think that it was the latter).

This is the thing about relationships. As I have said earlier on (and I do still believe it until now), there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.

I have yet to encounter couples who are so madly in love with each other (save for those that I see in movies or 'lala' land), nor have i encountered any specimen of a being who is really head over feet(!) with their significant half the minute they know that their other half is so madly in luvvvvv with them.

Never.

I just don't know why. Might be the ego that we have inside us.

Might also be that most of us have stopped trying too hard in relationships so as to not get hurt.

This time however, I would like to vouch for the former.


This is the thing.

I have been in a few relationships, each different and unique in its own way.

Because as everyone is well aware, none of us are the same. Each individual has it's strength, and also weaknesses.

And this is another thing when it comes to a person's strength and weakness.

Either you accept both of the two, OR u choose to make a big fuss over it.

And most of the time when you're in love, you would tend to close one eye and accept the person for who he or she is. Flaws and all. This is the most fundamental aspect that you need to first establish in order to move forward in a relationship.

Some people lie to themselves and say, 'yes I love him/her. It doesn't matter what he/she is, I would love him/her til the end'.

Whilst some people would be too arrogant and bastard/bitchy enough to say 'I don't like his/her flaw. It irks me to bits. Might as well end it here and go look for the perfect one'.

And you know the irony of it all?

In both of the situations, neither would win.

Because you know why?

Nobody's perfect. And that's a fact that no one can rebut at the end of the day.

but you know one thing that would make the relationship work? (And this is so true and I bet everyone would agree with me on this).

Be with someone that you can have a conversation with.

Someone that you can have a healthy debate with (without later having to go to bed angry). Someone who you could laugh out loud with. Someone who understands you. Someone who has the same level of intellectual as yours.

Because let's face it. When all of that lust and all of that hot and heavy feeling's gone, what else is there for the both of you?

The wonderful art of communication!! Where you share all the love and joy, and not forgetting the pain and sorrow that you shall encounter together as a couple.

Untill the end.

Oh yeah, and please don't forget another essential part of a relationship.

RESPECT.

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